May use to be my favorite month. It is the beginning of spring, the month I graduated from high school and college and most important my birthday. Now however all that has faded and May is just the month my whole life changed. I feel the sadness fill me as May 1 st comes. I thought aftrer all this time the pain would have been lessened but it hasnt. It is just as strong as ever. It will be 5 yrs this May that Tim left us. In a way it feels like it was yesterday but then again it feels like is was so long ago. I have now parented my children alone as long as we parented together. Everyday I learn more ways to survive as a single mom. I have learned how to fix things and do things I never thought I would. I have found strength I never knew I had. I have survived and that in itself is a miracle.
For the first few years I was in a panic about being alone. Like I was less of a person because I was alone. But now I have come to accept my aloneness and find the good in it. I have had the best gift in having Tim in my life and if God never choses to bless me again then that is ok. He gave me more then I deserved. I am not even sure anyone else could measure up anyway. I dont know what the future hold and I am glad I dont!
About Me
- Haven
- I married my best friend and love of my life Tim Bailey in 1994. He attended seminary in Lousville Ky from 1994-1999. Then he took his first pastorate in a town outside of Savannah Ga. We adopted 3 wonderful blessings- Dylan, Christopher and William in 2000- Then in 2004 we adopted my little angel Caitlyn. In that same year we were called to serve at a church in Ware Shoals Sc. We had only been there for 4 months when Tim drowned while saving 2 of our children. It has been a challenge to be a widowed mom of 4 children but God has blessed us.We have a variety of pets. A Catholoho Leopard dog Balto, a 14 yr old cat K.C. (Kentucky cat), A SHih tzu Ashley, Dason- pup from Ashley's first litter and currently 3 new born shih tzu pups born March 19- Tim's bday. I am active in my church. I also Homeschool my children- which is a blessing and a challenge I also public speak and give my testimony to various churches.
I have thought before about how blessed you were to have Tim. He was an extroidanary person and most women have never experienced the kind of love and life you two shared. I know it doesn't ease the pain, but I believe I would want a few years of "awe" than a lifetime of misery. I love you Haven. I admire you and I can see God shine through you and your family.
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